In each of us is a suffering child. We have all gone through difficult times and many of us were deeply disturbed during childhood. And to protect ourselves from all this suffering, the only solution we found was to forget about these painful episodes.
To find peace, however, and above all to be able to share it with those around you, as Prem Rawat does, it is essential to make peace with your childhood. And as Prem Rawat teaches, it is never neither too early nor too late to be at peace.
First step: recognize the internal conflict & become aware of your feelings
Our emotions are expressed by our body (for example: knotted stomach, shaky legs, tight chest, cheek warmth). Becoming aware of the signals that our body sends us is therefore the first step towards healing the inner child. It is only when we know how to recognize what is causing us discomfort or well-being that we can begin to make conscious choices.
We can compare this idea with that of satiety: if we do not recognize the feeling of being full, we continue to eat until we get sick, until we suffer.
Second step: react as a loving adult & ask questions to understand
Once our emotions are recognized and accepted, we have a duty to respond to them with the intention of learning and growing. This implies a real desire to hear the voice of our inner child: to be interested and to be empathetic. This step requires us to behave with our inner child as we would with any suffering child:
- What is happening?
- What are you feeling?
- What do you need?
- What are the causes?
Third step: dialogue with your inner child & be attentive to the needs of your inner child
There are several types of situation in which engaging in dialogue with the inner child is easy and even natural:
- In everyday life (what color do you want to wear? Where would you like to go on vacation? What kind of creative activities would you like to have? ...)
- In case of conflicts or painful events (I know you are angry and I would like to know why? What happened to make you ashamed? What can I do for you? How do you feel? Compared to…?)
- To find memories or beliefs (does something right now remind you of an old memory? Does this person remind you of mom / dad? Do you need to be held while you are reviving this suffering?)
Step four: chat with your higher consciousness & ask for help
This fourth step is to connect with your higher consciousness and ask for help in recognizing the reality of things and knowing how to act. Our higher consciousness is our true self, who we are fundamentally. Ask yourself questions like
- What reality is hidden behind this belief that limits me or makes me suffer?
- What can I do to correct this belief?
- How can I act lovingly in this situation?
- What does my inner child need to feel loved by me at this precise moment?
The answers may not come immediately but will take time to mature, to develop. The path to understanding may be more or less long, but it will certainly come once the right questions are asked.
Step five: act & act actively to meet the needs of the inner child and the adult
This step involves taking loving actions that will reconcile the adult's thoughts with the needs of the inner child. These acts are courageous because they often require us to question what we have believed all our life, to take risks in certain relationships. No one in the world can do for us what we need to do for ourselves. The answer is in itself.